Finding a Partner in Later Life
If you are single and want to meet a new partner, there are several ways of meeting new people.
As an older person you may feel apprehensive about meeting a new partner. If you have suffered a bereavement or been through a painful divorce, it can take a long time to feel ready to start dating again. However, if you are single and want to meet a new partner, there are several ways of doing it.
Our section on Finding friends also suggests several ways of meeting new people where you could also find a potential partner.
Ways of Finding a Partner
Personal ads – Placing your own or replying to someone else’s personal advertisement in your local newspaper is an easy way of making contact with like-minded people. Contact your local newspaper for details of how to go about placing an advertisement.
Speed dating – This is a fun way to meet new people and you can attend speed dating events with friends, which makes it safer. The events work by ensuring that equal numbers of men and women attend and that the participants are of a similar age. You will then ‘date’ each person for approximately 3 to 5 minutes. At the end of each date, both parties complete a form to say whether they are interested in each other, which can then lead to a ‘proper’ date.
Online dating agencies – There are many different dating websites available, but they all work in a similar way. You create a ‘profile’, including your personal details (name, age, location etc), and you state the type of person that you would like to meet. You will then be contacted by people who are interested in you.
You can also browse through other people’s profiles and get in touch with anyone that looks interesting!
Visit the Saga website for tips on how to write a profile. There may be a fee to join these websites and this will vary.
Although dating can, and should be, fun you need to be aware of the potential dangers and make sure that you are safe at all times. You may find it useful to read our section on staying safe online.
Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Relationships
As an older person who is lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB), you may find it more difficult to meet new people. Gay and lesbian pubs and clubs are often designed to cater for younger people, and traditional older peoples’ clubs may not be suitable for your needs.
Remarriage and your finances
More and more people are getting married in later life, parhaps after a divorce or bereavement, but it is often sensible to also think about how you will manage your new financial and legal arrangements.
Remarriage, civil partnership of living as a couple can affect your means-tested benefits due to the addition of your new partner’s income. You will need to inform your benefits office as soon as possible to let them know of the changes in your circumstances.
Your State Pension
If you remarry or register for a Civil Partnership after you have reached state pension age, you can use your ex-partner’s National Insurance record for your basic state pension. This will allow you to receive a higher rate of pension.
Widows, widowers and surviving civil partners who have reached state pension age can also inherit some or all of their late partner’s additional pension or graduated retirement benefit.
If you have your own private pension scheme and remarry or form a civil partnership, you may like to change the nominated beneficiary for your pension.
If you remarry or form a new civil partnership, any existing wills that you have will be invalid. However, going through a divorce or dissolving a civil partnership does not. If you wish you can amend your will to stop any cancellation due to your remarriage, but you may prefer to make a new will.